Reaching Forgiveness

?How can I forgive my parents when they were so abusive to me when I was growing up??
?How can I forgive my spouse for cheating on me??
?How can I forgive my best friend for abandoning me??
?How can I face and forgive unforgiving abusers and manipulators??
?How can I forgive myself when others do not forgive me and throw my past in my face every chance they get??
These are some of the questions about forgiveness my clients have asked me over the 37 years that I have been a counselor.
We have all been told that forgiveness is good for the soul, and it is. Yet forgiveness cannot be forced. We cannot will ourselves to forgive, because if we try to deny the anger, blame and judgment that may still be there, it is likely to come out at some point. View the rest of this article